New Music Video and Update

 

 
 
Jennifer Shaw Music November, 2012
 

Jennifer ShawIf your inbox is like mine - totally inundated with Christmas! Christmas! Christmas!!!!! - you might not mind a change of pace.  :)

There were just a couple of things I wanted to share with you all this month. There have been so many really exciting things happening - a taping for FamilyLife Today with Dennis Rainey and Bob Lepine, various events in New YorkIndianaOregon, andOhio, an article for Autism Speaks, an appearance on The Havest Show from LeSea - it's been really busy and so exciting to watch God working. I've covered all of that in my blog, and hope you'll check it out!

Specifically, I wanted to share with you all my new music video for Remember Nhu, an organization that fights child trafficking. Remember Nhu brought my husband Nathan and I over to Thailand last February to see their work, and when we got home, I wrote this song for them. We've just finished the final editing, and I wanted to share it with you! For us personally, it's a very touching video because we've spent time with many of the children who are featured in it.
 
For those of you looking for the new video for "Your Child," my song honoring the love of family and special needs families in particular, it's nearly complete! We are making just a few minor editing changes and should have that done very soon.  I'll send an email when it's finished to let you know. I also just have to thank all the beautiful families who sent in pictures - it's been wonderful getting to know you and your stories! We had such a blast filming that video - you can read more about it and see some pictures here.
 
For all my friends who have been through Hurricane Sandy lately, and for anyone new to the list who's having a difficult time right now, I got so much feedback about my blog post "Trust is Hard" that I thought I'd link it again in case it's helpful. I hope you enjoy it!
 
Speaking of Christmas, we have added a couple of new sale bundles to our store this month. I hope you will consider giving my music or books this Christmas! When you buy my products, you are actually funding this entire ministry - the videos, the new music, the missions travel, everything. I so appreciate it, and want you to know that in a very real way, you keep me doing what I do - thank you!

Finally, below I put an article I wrote for Autism Speaks this month. It's pretty specific to our son's SPD, but as I was writing it, I was thinking that if there's anyone who needs to hear it, I wouldn't want to keep it from you. Early intervention is so critical, and a new study has shown that SPD affects nearly 1 in 20 children in the US. I hope you will read it and share it with anyone it may help.

Thanks for taking the time in this busy season to connect with us! We'd love to hear how we can be praying for you and what's happening in your life!


In Christ, 


Jennifer


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A New Normal
One Mom's Experience with Sensory Processing Disorder

 

Sensory Processing Disorder (formerly called Sensory Integration Dysfunction) is closely aligned with autism in that most autistic children have significant struggles with SPD. The following is an editorial from Jennifer Shaw whose son was diagnosed with SPD. Jennifer is a speaker, singer, songwriter, and author of the book Life Not Typical: How Special Needs Parenting Changed My Faith and My Song, an Autism Speaks resource. Visit her online at www.jennifershaw.com.

 

I was the mother of two beautiful girls and was thrilled to add a son to our family. When Toby was born after a difficult and dangerous pregnancy we were especially thankful that he was healthy. He seemed to be a very unhappy baby compared to our girls, but we hoped he would grow out of it.

 

The first indication that something was out of the ordinary was when we could not get him to eat any food. I had nursed him without any problems, but when we introduced baby foods, it was a daily struggle that we lost. We also noticed that he never babbled or made any sounds and he rarely smiled. Eventually it was clear that he was very speech-delayed, but because he had suffered from repeat ear infections which caused clinical deafness during his first year, we attributed a lot of his irritability to pain and hoped that when his hearing improved, his speech would come along. After surgery on his ears, his hearing did get better and the infections went away, but he still did not make any sounds.

 

During Toby's second year, my father was dying of ALS and that took much of our emotional energy so we did not react as quickly to the signs we were seeing in Toby as we might have otherwise. Still, Toby's behavior was getting more and more extreme. He wouldn't touch anything or play. He did not want to be touched. He was terrified of being messy or being anywhere near things like grass or sand. A drop of water on his clothing would make him scream. It became really frightening and we did not know how to help him.

 

When Toby turned two, we started him at a therapy school for speech delay. There was an occupational therapist on staff and she was the first to diagnose him with Sensory Processing Disorder (previously known as Sensory Integration Dysfunction). Toby's brain was not interpreting sensory input correctly. People with this disorder can suffer in a variety of ways, but in Toby's case, he was extremely hyper-sensitive to touch of any kind. Food in his mouth, clothes on his skin, crumbs on his hands were all completely intolerable to him -his brain told him they were "hurting" him. He was completely terrified of his world and shutting down.

 

Toby began play-based occupational therapy, speech therapy, some physical therapy (because he didn't touch things or play and had poor balance his muscles were very weak), and food therapy. Within two months my son who had no sounds said, "I love you, mom," and within a year, Toby's progress was nothing short of miraculous. He is now eight, and has been discharged from all his therapies for the past three years. It is absolutely amazing to see the change in him and such a blessing to see him able to enjoy his world.

 

I am a speaker and musician, not a doctor or therapist, but we learned a lot of things along the way that I share with people who suspect this condition in their own children. There is so much hope if you know where to look, and although Toby's outcome is not typical, there is help for every child with this diagnosis. 

 

So here's my advice:

 

Do not ignore the signs, even if you don't know what they mean. This is by no means a comprehensive list, but some of the symptoms of SPD are speech delay, poor coordination, poor balance, avoiding touch or seeking touch in extreme ways (running into walls or falling down on purpose, running into people), extremely picky eating or extremely messy eating, irritability or a "difficult" personality. SPD is often misdiagnosed, especially in older children or less severe cases, as ADD or ADHD.

 

Do not wait, even when your pediatrician tells you to. After everything we went through with Toby, my pediatrician (whom I love and really respect) told me that she gave me the wrong advice by advising me to wait for Toby to catch up. This may be good advice for many problems, but SPD is not one of them. Early intervention is critical, and treatment is so much more effective before the age of three that you cannot afford to waste time. If you suspect something, get tested by an occupational therapist - if they say there's nothing to worry about, fine, but if not, you have not wasted valuable time for therapy.

 

Get help. There is a federal program for ages 0-3 "developmentally-different" children available in every state. It goes by many different names - ours was "Help Me Grow". They will do testing and help get your child into therapy programs, many of which are free if you qualify. Toby's therapy program literally changed his life and ours. You can call the special needs department at your local school district and they are usually able to tell you who operates the program in your area. If your child is over the age of three, help is available through your local school district's special needs department. Take advantage of any therapy coverage on your insurance plan.

 

Get educated. Find out all you can, and do everything you can to help at home. An excellent book on SPD is The Out of Sync Child by Carol Stock Kranowitz. Talk to your therapists about what you can do at home, watch the therapy whenever possibly, and ask a lot of questions. We continued all of Toby's therapies at home, and really attribute a lot of his gains to this. We were able to overcome a lot of Toby's food issues only because we worked on it every day at every meal and because we had learned techniques from our therapists.

 

Re-define baby steps. This is not a quick fix. For example, Toby was literally afraid of food. We were not usually able to get him to stay in the same room with us while we ate - sitting down and eating a meal was out of the question. So first, we worked on getting him to be with us in the room at meals, then getting him to sit at the table, then allowing us to put food on the plate, then touching the food with a fork, then touching it to his tongue but not eating it, etc. It was a long, frustrating process, but my son eats a healthy diet now and enjoys mealtimes with our family. The simplicity of a family meal has become a true blessing in our lives.

 

Get support. Dealing with special needs can be very lonely and frightening. Our church and our faith were amazing supports to us and truly what held us together at times. The other parents of special needs children at Toby's school were also a wonderful source of support. Realizing we were all dealing with similar challenges and emotions helped us see that we weren't alone. They were also a wonderful resource for practical ideas as we all talked about what was working or not working for our children.

 

Don't give up. SPD can be overwhelming and confusing. It can be hard to navigate the therapy system. Every therapy will not work for every child and you will need to be careful and wise about your choices. Take comfort in knowing that there is help and things can improve. You are your child's best advocate, and your child needs you. 

 

About Jennifer Shaw Music 
Singer, songwriter, speaker, worship leader and now author Jennifer Shaw recently topped the national Christian radio charts with a # 3 hit song "Your Great Name." Her new book, Life Not Typical: How Special Needs Parenting Changed My Faith and My Song, has brought national attention to the issue of Sensory Processing Disorder. After being classically-trained as an opera singer at the prestigious Manhattan School of Music, Jennifer became a professor of music at Cedarville University before she felt led into her current role as a contemporary worship leader. Her testimony includes tragedy and triumph, being the parent of a special needs child, and losing her father to Lou Gehrig's disease. With the release of her fourth album, Someday, her songs, including four singles on Billboard's Top 40, offer hope in any circumstance and also reflect her recent experiences on the mission field in Asia, Africa and the UK.
 
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